Monday, March 1, 2010

Missing Grandpa a Year Later

It is hard to believe that it's been a year since my grandpa died. In some ways, I don't even like to believe that it's true at all and in others it feels like his being gone is now a part of our lives.

February proved to be a tough month. It was the anniversary of his getting sick, Valentine's Day which would have been their 62nd anniversary, and then the anniversary of his passing on the 26th. My policy: avoid it all.

Valentine's day used to be a wonderful celebration for me. I always loved it, regardless of my dating status, because it was my grandparents' day. Their love was such a fantastic love story that felt like an endless Hallmark movie. Their love for each other spilled out to all of us. We always got gifts on Valentine's day from Grandma and Grandpa. This year, we didn't celebrate. I didn't even buy them for my students.

I was sure that last Friday would be a tough day for me, but it wasn't. I didn't cry, I thought of Grandpa often, but it was with fondness and pleasure in my memories of him. I felt that I was beginning to accept the reality of him being gone and I was finally able to think back in joy.

Today I was caught off guard. I'm reading a cute book to my first period class about Jr. High kids. I was reading a chapter today that was not particularly sentimental or dramatic, but just involved a boy going on a walk with his grandpa and hearing some of his stories. As I read the line, "and boy could my grandpa talk!" I got choked up. I started to cry and could barely get out the words. I really miss my grandpa's stories.

Sometimes when I would be cornered by my grandpa and he'd be telling me a story, I'd tell myself, "He won't always be here to say this. Take the time to listen!" And I would do it. I would listen and soak it in and savor it. How much I would love to just hear one more. To have him grab my arms and tell me something.

The other day I wore a dress that I knew he liked and I could just hear his compliment to me. He would always grab my arms and look at me and say, "That's a beautiful dress." It's impossible to feel ugly when an artist compliments you like that.

I can't even imagine what it must be like for Grandma. I've decided that she's going to be sad forever until she's with him again and that's ok. I'm going to try to give her glimmers of happiness, but when you've been cherished by a man like John Reimer for over 61 years, it seems pretty nearly impossible to try to live joyfully without him.

I am so thankful for my Grandpa and the time that I was able to have with him. I am thankful that I knew him so well and that I was able to be loved by him and love him. I miss him so much, but I am starting to remember him with joy. I sure did love him and I sure do miss him.

Friday, February 5, 2010

My Book Challenge

. So I know I have a problem. I know that my love for books can be a little obsessive. I know that I also buy more books than I need because I like to have a loaning library and, honestly, I feel comforted by being surrounded by books. Recently I was struck by how much I spend on books each year. I also noticed that I have a lot of books I haven't read yet. One night I decided to count them: 65. That's right, in my room alone (that doesn't count the closet of books I have) there are 65 books I own and haven't read. Then I counted the books I've borrowed and haven't read: 30. So I essentially have 100 books in my room that I haven't read yet.


. I gave myself this challenge and wrote it down next to my list of books I need to read:

. I may not purchase another book until I have read every book I own except theological, devotional, historical, or math books.

. I must also finish one borrowed book before I can buy one new book. (This is to make room in my shelves and because it's rude to keep a book for that long)

Exceptions are:
  • Books in a series in which I've read every previous book in that series.
  • Gifts (for others or from others)
  • Books I need for a specific purpose. (I know this sounds like a loophole, but what I mean is books I may need for a Bible study or for my classroom, but ones I need to buy intentionally)
. It has been two weeks since I've made this choice and so far I've made it through one trip to Barnes and Noble without buying a thing! I've also finished one borrowed book, one owned book, and started to read four other books. I think I might make an addendum stating that if I don't want to read a book on my list, I may sell it to the used bookstore, but cannot replace it with a purchase from that store unless the previous stipulations have been met.

. I'm not sure how long it will take me to complete my list. I would say a year, but some of the books include "David Copperfield" and "Gone With the Wind" which I've meant to read for 18 years after I dishonestly wrote a book report about it even though I hadn't read it (I got an A, but it was a tainted A). Those will take me a long time, but I'm sure that since most of the other books are either teen fiction or Christian romance novels I'll be able to zip through them quickly.

. I'll keep you posted on my progress and feel free to hold me accountable. I'm just not sure what to do about our school's book fair...it's for a good cause...I better start reading fast.

Sunday, January 3, 2010

A walk around my 'hood (or how Frank's real name is Ray)

I decided that watching 4 episodes of Gilmore in a row, although entertaining and restful, is not going to make me a healthy person. So I decided to put on a cute sweater and go for a walk around my neighborhood.

Five seems to be a happening time in my neighborhood. I saw Frank, the frisbee guy cooking on the BBQ. Best Christmas decoration people were taking their lights down. All black dog walking bike riding guy was out for another ride. And several other people were out and about. I felt like I was part of a community.

You see, I grew up in a neighborhood that was more like a small town. We all had keys to each others houses and knew all the details of everyone's life. My parents' neighborhood was more like another family to me. Since I've moved here, things have been a little more quiet. Maybe it's because I don't have my father to instigate introductions or maybe everyone else is a little bit quieter too. I just felt bad that after four years I only know a few of my neighbors by their real names.

Best Christmas decoration people always have the best Christmas decorations. They get together with their whole building and do a theme. One year they even gift wrapped the garage doors. I've always wanted to tell them that I love their decorations and tonight I did!
All black dog walking bike riding guy is just as his name implies. He wears only all black and rides his bike with his dog on the leash. Seriously, even his dog is black. It kind of creeps me out. What made him choose a monochromatic life? The ease of one color? Does he just think black is elegant? Is he color blind? A tragic fingerpainting accident that has left him devoid of happiness expressed through color? I don't know. I avoided him on my walk.

And then there's Frank, the frisbee guy. Frank is an older gentleman who is always playing with kids toys in the street. He often plays with frisbees, remote control cars, kites, airplanes, and one time this complicated UFO thing that was glowing and traveled on a string connecting two balconies across the street from each other. Frank has always been a pleasant waver when I drive by. Maybe he calls me "that mini girl", but Julie and I named him Frank. Well it took me three laps around the complex to get up the courage to introduce myself to Frank, but I finally did. He's lived here for 21 years (that's about as old as the complex) and his name is Ray. His friend across the street is Al. I have to tell you, I was a little disappointed. He really looks more like a Frank to me, but I'm glad to get to know him.
So now I know even more of my neighbors and so if I am tragically murdered and the detectives start asking my neighbors about the girl who lived in suite D, more of them will know more about me than just that I drive a mini and can be heard singing to myself as I skip to the mailbox. This brings me comfort.

Saturday, December 26, 2009

The Christmas Cooldown

This was a blog I originally wrote in 2006 and I figured I'd repost it here.

As I have previously mentioned, I love Christmas. The problem, I've discovered, is that I get this amazing Christmas build-up and then I'm supposed to just move on as if nothing ever happened. So I propose that we have the Christmas cool-down - a period of time (the week between Christmas and New Year's) where the Christmas obsessed can slowly purge the Christmas celebration out of their system instead of quitting cold turkey

First step is the radio music. Koast and the Fish have played non-stop Christmas music for one month and then, on December 26th it's back to the same old thing. Maybe we can compromise. For cooldown week perhaps they can play a series of 'winter' songs and New Year's songs. Here is a possible play-list: Baby It's Cold Outside, Winter Wonderland, Let it Snow, What are you doing New Year's, Auld Lang Sayne. For starters. This slow dissipation will take the edge off.

Next, we have the Christmas specials on TV. I love Christmas movies, do they have to end? The answer is simply, NO! There are plenty of movies in which the story takes place over the ENTIRE holiday season. These can be shown during cooldown as well. Here are some examples: Boyfriend for Christmas (my new favorite), When Harry Met Sally, Holiday Inn, that great one I saw on Lifetime about the homeless divorcee who gets her real estate liscence (I'm not kidding, I watched it yesterday and delighted in every delicious minute of it), and I can't think of any more, but they do exist.

Now about decorations. I feel that Christmas decorations can be left up during Cooldown. It's just one week more and I spent all that time putting them up. Maybe I can just put away one decoration a day and then it won't be such a shock.

Spreading Holiday cheer. This is the worst, because people seem to lose that 'true holday spirit' by the 27th. I am not going to let this one go. I'm going to wish people a happy new year and then a happy winter and then a happy Martin Luther King Jr. day, and then a happy President's day and I'll keep finding some holiday to wish people joy. [side note: I was shopping on Dec 23rd and I was so happy because it was almost Christmas, I was done with school, and I was almost done shopping. I was smiling so big and nearly skipping on my way to Barnes and Noble (or 'home', as I like to call it). I was deliciously happy. The best part was people would stare at me and then smile back. One group of people stopped their conversations and said, "Merry Christmas!" "Merry Christmas!" I shouted back and then I really did skip. I love that kind of community joy]

So please support me in my effort to relieve my post-Christmas blues by celebrating the Christmas Cooldown. I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and a wonderful New Year. And for those who celebrate various other holidays (Channukah, Kwanza, Festivus, etc) I hope that you enjoyed those as well.

Friday, December 18, 2009

I am Buddy the Elf

I was watching "Elf" again and I realized that I have so much in common with Buddy (the elf who is actually human, but raised by elves). Here's some ways in which we are similar:

1) I love sugar and I like to put sugar in lots of things (even things that don't usually have sugar)

2) I am usually happy and cheerful.

3) I like to whisper, too.

4) I get distracted by shiny things.

5) I love New York.

6) I don't sleep much (last night I got a full 45 minutes)

7) I love to decorate for Christmas.

8) I like to hug people.

9) I sing in public even when there's no song playing anywhere, even when people are around.

10) I went through the Lincoln Tunnel.

I was not raised by elves, but I do celebrate Christmas in the Reimer family, so that's practically the same thing.

Thursday, December 10, 2009

My Love For Christmas Movies Grows Greater With the Hallmark Channel

Yes, Brenda, there is a Santa Claus. Apparently, the cable that comes with our HOA fees for our condo as been upgraded. Julie called me the other day and told me the great news, "Christmas has come early for you, Bren!" "What?" I asked. "We now get the Hallmark Channel!" She giggled into the phone. "Record EVERYTHING!"

To me, there is no better TV than a cheesy Christmas movie. Old or new, poorly made and funded or a beautiful classic; I've seen them all. Julie keeps trying to stump me. She'll name the actors and the title in the latest one she recorded and I can tell her the basic storyline and rate it. Tonight she turned on one and I thought for sure it was one I hadn't seen. But then it started to look familiar, "If there's a lake on the other side of that house, then I've seen this one before. I think it's one of those darker, more serious ones." Sure enough, there was a lake.

Now, I know that not all of them are great, heck, some of them are down right awful. But I love them just the same. I've decided to collect a little list of some of my top Christmas movies. I'm sure I'll leave some off the list out of pure forgetfulness on my part. No slight is intended. They are listed in no particular order.

1) White Christmas - Premise: two WWII veterans meet during the war and form a musical act that leads them to fame and fortune, but sadly also leaves them without much of a personal life. They meet the Haynes sisters and fall for them quickly. They also, unwittingly, follow them to Vermont to ski resort run by their old general who is now retired. The season is slow as the snow has not fallen. The team decided to help the old man out by holding their show at the lodge. Romance, dancing, singing, comedy, misunderstanding, and some of the best costumes in the world follow. How can you beat Bing Crosby, Danny Kaye, Rosemary Clooney, and that really skinny blond chick? You can't. This is one of my favorite movies, period.

Rating and suggested audience: A+, everyone should see it.

2) Holiday Inn - this is the one that started it all! Premise: Bing Crosby and Fred Astaire are an entertainment team. Fred steals Bing's girl (Fred's dancing partner). Bing decides to leave the entertainment world behind and open an inn. It does poorly until he decides to open it on Holidays with a great show about that Holiday. Fred's partner leaves him and he comes to Bing's place and falls for Bing's new girl.

Best Parts: Singing and dancing for all seasons. This has the songs: Easter Bonnet and White Christmas (this is where it first came out). Bing sings and Fred dances...no more needs to be said.

Rating and suggested audience A-, people who love old movies or anyone who loves musicals.

3) A Boyfriend for Christmas - In my opinion, the best Hallmark has ever made. Premise: A young pre-teen asks Santa for a boyfriend for Christmas. He promises her one, but says she must wait 20 years. Sure enough, she grows up and still has not met mr.right. The same Santa sets her up with a handsome lawyer. All goes as it should in a Christmas movie, but some deceit that lingers and an old ex boyfriend threaten to ruin Christmas romance! No fear, it's a Hallmark movie.

Best parts: "Diane sent you a man for Christmas! Where was she when I was single?"

Rating and suggested audience: A+. any girl and some guys. It's a chick flick for sure, but a really good one.

4) Elf - the best Christmas comedy. Premise: Buddy, a human, was raised by elves in the North Pole. He later discovers that he is, in fact, not an elf and searches out his real father in New York. Christmas may be ruined, but by people believing (in some nebulous thing they must 'believe' in) Christmas is saved.

Best parts: So many quotable lines come from this movie...so many! "I just like smiling, smiling's my favorite."

Rating and suggested audience: A+ everyone

5) Miracle on 34th St. - the real one. Premise: a single mom, who works for Macy's, raises her daughter, Suzie, to be very practical and not believe in fairy tales like Santa. Santa of course comes in and changes their minds and connects the mom to the love of her life.

Best parts: When Santa speaks to the little girl in Dutch, when all the letters get delivered to Santa, when Susie runs into the house and her mother says, "Susie, you know better than to run into strange people's homes."

Rating and suggested audience: A+ everyone

6) If you believe - Premise: a book editor sours over time and alienates herself from all of her family and friends. She is bitter and has become bad at her job. On Thanksgiving, she falls and hits her head and as a result, her inner child comes out and tries to guide her back to a time where she enjoyed life and lived it. She discovers a new writer (who is also, single, charming, and handsome) and he (along with her inner child, played by Hayden Pannitierre from Heroes) bring her back to her former glory.

Best parts: I'm a book nerd, so I love the parts where they are editing the book. I don't think other people would like that part as well.

Rating and suggested audience: B-, girls

7) I'll Be Home for Christmas, A Holiday for Love, and A Holiday to Remember: Why are these three listed together? Because they are the same movie, essentially. Premise: Small town desperately needs something to save it (a new Dr, the town plant to not close, children who need saving). Big town character comes to town (sometimes their hometown) and they clash with the equally single and attractive small town character who is in opposition to them. Through the Christmas time, they grow in love and understanding and Christmas, and the town, are saved!

Best Parts: guessing correctly about what the actors will say next.

Rating and suggested audience: C-, people know what Fa La La La Lifetime is.

8) A Season for Miracles: Premise: a young woman is not allowed to take care of her drug addicted sister's two children and they will be split up for foster care. She kidnaps them and drives in her old bug to escape. Her car breaks down in a small town. The night is very cold and they decide to sleep in a beautiful home that in not currently lived in. The whole town thinks she is the dead owner's niece, come to inherit the property. She goes along with the scheme in the hopes that she can take care of her niece and nephew. She falls for the town sheriff and the town falls for her. The truth is discovered and she is still forgiven. The kids get to stay with her and she and the sheriff are reunited.

Best Parts: the cheese of the whole thing

Rating and suggested audience: B+, chicks only

There are so many more: The Christmas Card, The Christmas Box, Time piece, The Christmas Child, Single Santa Seeks Mrs. Claus and Meet the Clauses (the sequal), Midnight and Mistletoe, Eve's Christmas, A Carol Christmas, Die Hard, The Bishop's Wife (that one's such a great one, A++), The Polar Express, His and Her Christmas, The Perfect Day, The Most Wonderful Time of the Year, The Christmas Angel (creepy, don't see it), The Note and The Note II, Silent Night (about WWII), Joyeux Noel (so wonderful and a true story about WWI and an amazing Christmas Eve), and Mixed Nuts, and too many movies!! Oh, yeah the Christmas Story, A Charlie Brown Christmas, A Muppets Family Christmas, The Muppets' Christmas Carol, Rudolf, man, there isn't enough time to watch them all.

I hope you enjoy your Christmas specials this season. Let me know if you have any great ones and I'll add it to my list.

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Finally Figuring Out Some Food Stuff

As many of you know, I've been going to a nutritionist (actually a naturopath) for a couple months now. Many people wondered why I was even going, I asked myself that many times. Since then, many people have asked if it's working, I asked myself that too. Today felt like a huge breakthrough for me.

One reason I decided to go is that food has always been an issue of some kind for me. I love sugar. I mean LOVE sugar. I would eat something sugary (I mean a full blown candy or cookie or dessert item) at least three or four times a day. Besides my love of sugar, there was also the problem of me being starving with hunger and unable to eat simultaneously. I would eat a few bites of something and then feel a sense that if I ate any more I wouldn't be able to swallow it, but then I was feeling famished too. An hour later I'd be starving again and try to eat only to be sick a few bites in. I didn't feel this was with string cheese, yogurt, candy, cookies, soup, or ice cream. This is why I would eat mostly these things all day long.

These past few months, I've stopped eating a lot of things that once made me feel ill. I am now able to finish entire meals. No "Brenda" portions of anything anymore. I eat whole steaks, whole chicken breasts, and all of the sides with it. The only problem is, I'm still starving. Like all the time. The good news is, I don't feel sick when I eat and I can swallow all of my food. The bad news is that despite how much I'm eating, I'm never full and I'm losing too much weight.

During today's visit with the nutritionist, we discovered the missing link that connects it all together. I have a really fast thyroid aka a really fast metabolism. I'm starving for carbs and my thyroid processes it faster than I can eat it. My body craves sugar because I'm not ever keeping any sugar. So my new regimen is to eat every three hours and to mix protein and carbs with each meal/snack. I think it is just a relief to know why my body has been doing what it's doing for all of these years. It also explains how I could eat how I did and not gain weight from it. It also explains why I'm addicted to sugar. It also helps me feel like there are solutions and I can feel full again, without feeling sick.

So no worries. I will be gaining back some of the weight I've lost and I won't be so tired after work and I'll be even happier throughout the day and my heart won't flip like it does. It's all connected and now I feel like we've found the missing piece.